Thanksgiving is the beginning of holiday season and, for many of us, holiday season is more stressful than it should be. You’re around people that you may not see all the time. There’s alcohol involved. Too much money is being spent. It’s a lot.
What adds to that stress is that the reunification of your extended family can cause a lot of pressure. When you’re young, or in a career or lifestyle that is not traditional, people tend to have a lot of questions. They want to know where you’re working, who you’re dating, what you’re doing with your life. It’s usually well-meaning, but if you don’t have the answer to appease them, it can be awkward.
For your own sanity, and for the sake of the general vibe of your family gatherings, it’s best to remember that your life is actually none of anyone’s business. It’s a simple but powerful truth. A lot of the time stress is self-inflicted. We stress because we place significance on something that is out of our control (like the opinion of another person). Peace comes when we realize we don’t have control over those things and we accept that and learn to deal.
So, as you approach this holiday season, remember that your life really isn’t anyone else’s concern. No one is entitled to details on your life. No one needs to understand why you are the way that you are. Your choices don’t need justification.
There is food, there is wine (if you’re over 21 and drinking is a thing that you do) and there is a source of love and acceptance somewhere in that room. Even if that source is your cat. Cling to the good, ignore the negative and stay in sole possession of your peace.